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Ire saw her friend’s status that had a picture with the statement ‘’raise your hands if you have a friend that is now a stranger’’. She sighed because it suddenly felt like her friend was referring to her. It took her back to how their friendship started to develop distance. Ire’s roommate was a year above her when she resumed as a fresher. Her roommate introduced her (Ire) to her friend who always gave Ire all the past questions and text books she needed but Ire’s friends never knew.   She didn’t count it necessary to tell them because she felt it might mean her being too forward. They were new friends and being new wasn’t easy for Ire. As time went on, Ire got to discover that her friends really needed past questions and text books especially for one of her friend who had issues with a basic maths course but she still did not see a reason to help out. Somehow, that friend got to know. Ire continued to defend herself as she continued in her ways but this friend of ...

It’s normal when we sometimes not feel at our best but it becomes scary when we make the feeling the end point. In this context, that you are not at your best means that you feel down about yourself but in the real sense you want more. How to achieve the ‘more’ is where the challenge comes. Life has a lot of challenges. Constantly thinking of what is wrong will not solve the problem. Instead, accept the challenge and understand where you are. When you’re not at your best is actually the right time to evaluate yourself and tackle the reason the feelings are coming. Our relationships, happenings, bills, works, opinions from people and more are capable of putting us down when going wrong. Just Calm down and take a break from stressful thoughts. Try not to continue in the thoughts that shouldn’t be allowed in your mind. ‘’You have power over your mind, not outside events, realize this and you will find strength’’ Marcus Aurelius said. See yourself as someone under t...

Are pictures a true reflection of people’s state? When your friend takes a ‘’selfie’’ in the mall, looking so beautiful in her slim fitted dress or his newly bought Rolex wristwatch and uploads it on their Whatsapp status or Instagram page, how do you feel? Have you ever stumbled on a friend’s snap, watch it continuously and all of a sudden you wish you had the life of that person? Is your social media life a competition? What are those feelings you have about the social media? The social media is a digital platform that encourages the establishment of information, ideas and people’s interest. It expresses people’s opinion and aids interaction between two or more people. These major social media platforms includes; Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter, Instagram, Snap chat. Negative effects on the other hand are those thoughts that have bad results on people. They bring less confidence, sadness, jealousy or hatred to a person, someone or group of people. I found out that...

My plan of not having a friend in the university didn’t work. I started having same feelings I had about friends back then in secondary school as I began the university. I wanted a loyal friend but I paused to scan myself and I found out I’m not even close to the loyal friend I crave to see in my friends. We all have our shortcomings. At most times we are victims of what we complain of. A friend is a person who pays special attention to supporting you.  Friends are not angels!                     We come from different homes where things are handled in different manner. Therefore, in relating with friends understanding is key. In our homes, we sometimes have arguments with our siblings, how much more friends. How will you expect exactly what you want from a friend even if for example, the only thing you want to see in that friend is someone who doesn’t backbite. Have you e...

I am not the better person I want to be now, but I want to be better. The first thing I had to do was to admit to myself who I am and then I asked myself if who I am now is who I want to be. In becoming a better you, you have to admit to yourself who you are and ask yourself if who you are now is who you want to be. I am a very lazy person. I tell my siblings that God knows why he made me the last born. At the same time, I have things I want to achieve. I knew this (laziness) was one of the things I had to admit to myself and so I decided to write down things I needed to work on and one of these things was laziness. Formerly, I could use the whole Saturday to do my house chores but now, it’s still morning and I’m done with my chores. This gives me time to do the next thing I can do. Read! I feel guilty to write read and that is why it looks like I just blurted the word and ran. I found out that I sometimes find it very difficult to take a book to read and so I started doin...

Rachel is fat and she knows. Calling her Orobo (fat) will not make her slim but has a higher chance of making her feel really depressed. When Rachel checks the mirror the only thing she is likely to see is what you’ve said about her, what she wants to change about herself, compare herself with people and other negative attributes. It hurts! It’s funny how a blessed Rachel sees herself as cursed, how words have reduced a happy girl and made her the opposite of who she’s meant to be.  If you happen to be a Rachel, that is in one way or the other you feel you have a blemish or people keep telling you about things you hate to hear, I’m here to tell you never to feel less. It could be true but it doesn’t mean you should stick to your weaknesses and give negativism a chance. You can develop yourself to make yourself happy and not because you want to live a life of impression. The world is filled with critics and so you have to make conscious effort to label (brand) yourself ...

I wrote a list of things I needed to improve on. I had a conviction that I could do all except one called confidence. Confidence is the feeling of certainty but I grew up with the reverse feeling. It became evident to me in Junior Secondary School when my friends would ask me if I read for an exam and my reply would always be ''I don't know''. I replied them that way not because I wanted to shock them with a 55 over 60 as my result but because I always had doubts in my reading. I'm a youth now and this is the stage where I am supposed to grab opportunities, set goals and work towards achievement but the foundation to my achievements is what I lack. The truth is that I am not in this alone and the reason why most of us are facing this dilemma is because we expect perfection in everything we do to the extent that we run from building a positive mind set. I have started working on myself, you can too. I’m experiencing the changes bit by bit. For this...