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Reading became stress. The stress that came from disappointments in herself not from the reluctance of staying up all through the night. She was alone in the room now, crying and trying to stop something she didn’t like but seemed like she had to do to gain her sanity. The moment finally ended. ‘’Lord I’m sorry’’ she muttered in guilt, closed her notes, switched off the light and forced herself to sleep. Sunday was next day. She was so early, earlier than chapel workers. It felt like chapel was the place she could correct her wrongs. Moni! Her roomie shouted as she approached their room. ‘’You’re early today oo’’ She smiled. Moni was known for her smile but this time, her smile had turmoil in it. ‘’Good morning’’ she said to her roommate. This morning walk to chapel wasn’t complete without her friends but that was the intention, to be alone, to find relief. The saxophonists were preparing to usher the preacher. The lead player gave its first sound, eve

Gold and Toke have being working in the Public Relations Department of a company for over three years. Every day, Gold resumes work before work time and leaves hours after work has ended. Gold is principled and well organised about work. She does not take all her bosses instruction for granted and she is so keened about doing everything right because she believes it is the only way she can make it to the top. Toke on the other hand is almost average with the way she works. She leaves work most times at the exact closing hour.   She resumes early at sometimes and a little late at other time. Her relationship with other bosses and colleagues is not really a smooth one and her works are not close to quick and accurate as Gold but she still tries to deliver services as good as she can. The time for promotion came, Toke got promoted but Gold didn’t. ‘’Gold is more efficient and worthy of this promotion than Toke is’’ the line manager exclaimed as Gold went to tender her complains

  It was time for my second internship and as I journeyed home, I still had not gotten a place to work. I was certain I would get a place but my fear was what if I ended up not gaining interest in where I get to work. A week after I came home, I started working in an organisation called MME (Media Marketing and Expert) Africa. I was happy, happy with my timid life. Only for my boss to spot my timidity and it was then that my personal and work development through internship truly started. Internship is the opportunity given to students to learn and gain insight about a profession or a vocation. As I proceeded in it, I got to see some parts of me. Sometimes as students or individuals, we never might know where more of our interest lies until we really learn about them. For instance, as a student of Mass Communication, I used to think that my interest lied in just writing. I felt writing was like the only place I could even try functioning at. But while working, I got an opp

Aunty Sarah teaches diction in a primary school. Whenever she’s to lead the assembly, she most times ask the children to sing the magic words song as they   match into their various classes following the tune of the song. The children would shout happily each time they got to the main lesson of the song stating ‘’Please, Excuse me, Sorry, Thank you and the last one Pardon me!’’ Each time the children did something wrong, she would refer them back to the song so they could pick one of the magic words that best fit into correcting their   wrongs. These children began to grow and most of them forgot how to use these words. They didn’t see forgetting the magic words as a big deal and this was why they didn’t find a reason to make a trial in remembering the magic words not to talk of applying them. Consequently, Pride came to replace those words that were opened to correction. Pride means having too much awareness of your importance. The Greek word of pride is called hubri

Before I go into why I like writing, I'll like to remind you that inside of you is placed something waiting to explore. It could be funny that you have no skill about that thing you are passionate about or you feel you cannot do it but for the fact that you admire and desire that thing, it means you can do that thing. Ever since I was young, (since age eight) I feared a lot from life experiences and imaginations, I enjoyed imagining things and bringing out my own words from what people say. These feelings made me write. One of the reasons I take notes in church is because I need to find out if what the preacher is saying can trigger thoughts from me. Writing covers the times I want something but cannot get it or the times where there’s a delay in my desire. It expresses my ups and downs, it gives me hope and places me on a check. At one point, I lost interest in writing because I didn’t feel good with drawing my inspirations from just fears and uncertainty of life. I

Transformation is taking place in my life in two ways. One way is unconsciously and the other consciously. The unconscious change is very easy for me because I’m not aware, it’s just goes on. At most times people see the changes before I see them. The other one called conscious could be really stubborn. I feel this is where the original change comes.   It’s not easy to move from my old style of life to the new. That for some period a person will not be in control because of the fact that   he or she is trying to imbibe a style until it becomes a character. It’s not that easy. For instance, formerly, when I’m talking to someone who spots I’m shy and then the person asks ‘’are you shy?’’ I would say ‘’yes’’, so I can be easily relieved and I go back to my comfort of shyness. But I am in the process of change. I now have to give a countenance that appears that I am sure of myself even when there is a burning desire to go back to my old style. It gets easier as time goes on.

It’s very challenging to feel hopeless and void about life. It was past 9pm. Her heart was so heavy. She cried all through the previous night and in some part of the day, she still wanted to cry more but she couldn’t. She prayed for tears to come but it didn’t and so she decided to go play with one of her friends. Other girls she knew were there. They went on talking, laughing and arguing until some  went to their rooms and she left the remaining sleeping. Folarin walked back to her room, opened her cupboard so she could eat something but she ended up closing the cupboard without doing anything. She felt some form of resistance in everything she enjoyed doing. Even her love music couldn’t help. Hello! have you ever felt like Fola or worse than Fola?   I come from a point of view where regardless of our environments or circumstance that has shown to be the normal possibilities for depression, you can come out of it. All we need to do when we want to take bold s

Ire saw her friend’s status that had a picture with the statement ‘’raise your hands if you have a friend that is now a stranger’’. She sighed because it suddenly felt like her friend was referring to her. It took her back to how their friendship started to develop distance. Ire’s roommate was a year above her when she resumed as a fresher. Her roommate introduced her (Ire) to her friend who always gave Ire all the past questions and text books she needed but Ire’s friends never knew.   She didn’t count it necessary to tell them because she felt it might mean her being too forward. They were new friends and being new wasn’t easy for Ire. As time went on, Ire got to discover that her friends really needed past questions and text books especially for one of her friend who had issues with a basic maths course but she still did not see a reason to help out. Somehow, that friend got to know. Ire continued to defend herself as she continued in her ways but this friend of hers

It’s normal when we sometimes not feel at our best but it becomes scary when we make the feeling the end point. In this context, that you are not at your best means that you feel down about yourself but in the real sense you want more. How to achieve the ‘more’ is where the challenge comes. Life has a lot of challenges. Constantly thinking of what is wrong will not solve the problem. Instead, accept the challenge and understand where you are. When you’re not at your best is actually the right time to evaluate yourself and tackle the reason the feelings are coming. Our relationships, happenings, bills, works, opinions from people and more are capable of putting us down when going wrong. Just Calm down and take a break from stressful thoughts. Try not to continue in the thoughts that shouldn’t be allowed in your mind. ‘’You have power over your mind, not outside events, realize this and you will find strength’’ Marcus Aurelius said. See yourself as someone under t

Are pictures a true reflection of people’s state? When your friend takes a ‘’selfie’’ in the mall, looking so beautiful in her slim fitted dress or his newly bought Rolex wristwatch and uploads it on their Whatsapp status or Instagram page, how do you feel? Have you ever stumbled on a friend’s snap, watch it continuously and all of a sudden you wish you had the life of that person? Is your social media life a competition? What are those feelings you have about the social media? The social media is a digital platform that encourages the establishment of information, ideas and people’s interest. It expresses people’s opinion and aids interaction between two or more people. These major social media platforms includes; Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter, Instagram, Snap chat. Negative effects on the other hand are those thoughts that have bad results on people. They bring less confidence, sadness, jealousy or hatred to a person, someone or group of people. I found out that

My plan of not having a friend in the university didn’t work. I started having same feelings I had about friends back then in secondary school as I began the university. I wanted a loyal friend but I paused to scan myself and I found out I’m not even close to the loyal friend I crave to see in my friends. We all have our shortcomings. At most times we are victims of what we complain of. A friend is a person who pays special attention to supporting you.  Friends are not angels!                     We come from different homes where things are handled in different manner. Therefore, in relating with friends understanding is key. In our homes, we sometimes have arguments with our siblings, how much more friends. How will you expect exactly what you want from a friend even if for example, the only thing you want to see in that friend is someone who doesn’t backbite. Have you ever tried not telling people that she backbites? You can’t be tagging your friend with her weakness

I am not the better person I want to be now, but I want to be better. The first thing I had to do was to admit to myself who I am and then I asked myself if who I am now is who I want to be. In becoming a better you, you have to admit to yourself who you are and ask yourself if who you are now is who you want to be. I am a very lazy person. I tell my siblings that God knows why he made me the last born. At the same time, I have things I want to achieve. I knew this (laziness) was one of the things I had to admit to myself and so I decided to write down things I needed to work on and one of these things was laziness. Formerly, I could use the whole Saturday to do my house chores but now, it’s still morning and I’m done with my chores. This gives me time to do the next thing I can do. Read! I feel guilty to write read and that is why it looks like I just blurted the word and ran. I found out that I sometimes find it very difficult to take a book to read and so I started doin

Rachel is fat and she knows. Calling her Orobo (fat) will not make her slim but has a higher chance of making her feel really depressed. When Rachel checks the mirror the only thing she is likely to see is what you’ve said about her, what she wants to change about herself, compare herself with people and other negative attributes. It hurts! It’s funny how a blessed Rachel sees herself as cursed, how words have reduced a happy girl and made her the opposite of who she’s meant to be.  If you happen to be a Rachel, that is in one way or the other you feel you have a blemish or people keep telling you about things you hate to hear, I’m here to tell you never to feel less. It could be true but it doesn’t mean you should stick to your weaknesses and give negativism a chance. You can develop yourself to make yourself happy and not because you want to live a life of impression. The world is filled with critics and so you have to make conscious effort to label (brand) yourself with

I wrote a list of things I needed to improve on. I had a conviction that I could do all except one called confidence. Confidence is the feeling of certainty but I grew up with the reverse feeling. It became evident to me in Junior Secondary School when my friends would ask me if I read for an exam and my reply would always be ''I don't know''. I replied them that way not because I wanted to shock them with a 55 over 60 as my result but because I always had doubts in my reading. I'm a youth now and this is the stage where I am supposed to grab opportunities, set goals and work towards achievement but the foundation to my achievements is what I lack. The truth is that I am not in this alone and the reason why most of us are facing this dilemma is because we expect perfection in everything we do to the extent that we run from building a positive mind set. I have started working on myself, you can too. I’m experiencing the changes bit by bit. For this